Patrica Loertscher: Your hunch is probably right. He is trying to hide stuff from you.
Barrett Alosa: You've already asked this question before.You've received damn good advice on what to do.Now, stop whining, get off your lazy backside and DO something about it.
Dallas Bartolini: I agree with the first answer. You are likely dealing with a girlfriend on the side. I would simply confront him about it. And I would also make an appointment with a marriage counselor. If he doesn't agree, you've got some big decisions to make. Good luck.
Randa Hessell: Sounds off. If he's got nothing to hide, why avoid telling you who he shared a $130 dinner with? If the benefits of those expenses aren't shared with you, I see no reason why the costs should be. Separate your finances and get your own bank account, if you haven't already.
Cole Desher: Bi-polar disorder often removes all the normal inhibitions that normal adults have in place to govern their behavi! ors, it also distorts the person's view of reality...So infidelity, spending huge amounts on money on lavish items, getting involved in grandiose schemes is common when one starts going manic....Is it possible he has bi-polar disorder (manic depression)...it's either that or he's cheating with some Ho.....Is there bi-polar disorder in his family? It tends to be passed down in families....Honestly, WHY are you still with him? Pack up your stuff, the dog & bird and LEAVE.....it's NOT going to change, it will NOT get better, it will ONLY get worse.I told you what to do.....or is it a matter of waiting until he drags you to the gutter so to speak before you get yourself in gear...don't you deserve better than this?...Show more
Raymon Fiene: If I were you, I would be really careful, and I am not joking here. With all of his drastic changes lately and his wacky questionably psychotic behavior, if you start infringing on his good times, or the good thing he has going on, he! might try and hurt you. You have your instincts and your int! uition, so make sure that you listen to that. If he really is having some sort of psychotic episode, then he is in self preservation mode and will do anything to keep things good for him, without regard for your health or safety.EDIT: HIs behavior is not normal, even for someone with a girlfriend on the side....Show more
Morris Olexy: So you are not married to this guy but are living together. Well you have no legal right to know his financial business, but any man telling you you cannot see that stuff is cheating. Point blank and simple if you want to be the go home to girl and get the worst of everything while they get pretty baubles and gifts, then you are right where you want to be. If you are looking for fidelity and a future, its time to throw this one back and tame another one.
Refugio Gastineau: He's playing a game and it is your right as long as you are married, to see the bank account. His business is your business and vice versa. Something is g! oing on and it isn't right. I'd get to the bottom of this and get out while you still have some money to do it with.
Kris Otuafi: Have you ever had anyone accuse you of something you weren't guilty of?Let me tell you first hand that it makes you curl into a nutshell.Of course he doesn't want to talk about it, no one rightfully would.It sounds like anything he says will make you flip out on him and maybe he wants to avoid further confrontation.Doesn't he get CC statements in the mail?Can you not call the bank and request a copy of the account...is it joint?If you are very suspicious....follow him one day when he has one of these "business meetings" and see where and what he really is spending so much money on.I don't think you really have enough to go off of in terms of separating.Does he stay out late? Not answer his phone?Work late everyday and weekends??If not, then you are most likely overreactingEdit: Well you didn't say all that!! ;PIf he is acting so strangely,! as you listed above then yes, maybe it is time to confront him about i! t. I still say follow him one day. Take a day off of work and see what he does so late and on weekends. Try to get inot his phone and see if there are any pictures or texts..something. Its wrong to have to even be to that point in a marriage, but who cares it'll give you a piece of mind. If you find something incriminating...leave. You don't say if you have children or not so I'll assume that you don't. Its best to find out now before you do. Save yourself the heartache. Are you all still intimate regularly? Or has that stopped completely..That's always a sure fire sign. Best of luck...Show more
Eulah Hugill: Forsaken: Have you ever had anyone accuse you of something you weren't guilty of?Yes - he accuses me of cheating all the time, for no reason at all.Doesn't he get CC statements in the mail?no.Can you not call the bank and request a copy of the account...is it joint? I can see the bank account online.Does he stay out late? Yes.Not answer his phone? Yes. Again - he! doesn't communicate to me at all.Work late everyday and weekends?? Yep.If not, then you are most likely overreactingStill think I'm overreacting????...Show more
Francis Stickle: There are a million red flags that this man is cheating on you. Not only should you separate your money, you should be tested for ST D's and only have protected sex if you want to continue that. I'm sorry for you.
Ulrike Hert: Yes... I AM MARRIED TO HIM.
Brittanie Zakutney: It sure sounds as if he's trying to hide something (even if he thinks that his secrecy is a pathetic attempt at "being his own man" & there isn't a third party involved).I take it the two of you have separate bank accounts and are making two (comparable?) incomes.Remind him that when you (both) married you made certain commitments to one another. While the traditional wedding vows don't include a "full disclosure" clause, as his wife he should be sharing -- SHARING -- his life with you. That means being honest ! and open and treating you respectfully.Right now he's doing none of the! se....Show more
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